“I met a girl once ,went through the same thing, She told me shit happens, but things change, she told me all this pain, Don’t mean chains, you gotta take it and remake it, ‘Til it means strength” Angel Haze
After hearing about the suicide Amanda Todd here in Maple Ridge B.C I felt compelled to again write about bullying. (Original post about my own experience “Bullies, cowards at Heart“)
The sad truth is that Amanda isn’t the first to take her own life due to bullying and she won’t be the last. Bullying is serious. Having suffered myself starting in elementary school finishing the day I graduated, my heart breaks for this poor girl. To be that desperate, thinking your life is that worthless, feeling alone, no where to turn, must have been an unbearable existence.
I find it hard to find any sympathy for bullies, these are not kids but young adults. They know better. Words, bullying, tormenting, harassment, cause emotional wounds that years later never fully heal. Continuous persecution from peers early on in an impressionable teenage life affects their choices later on – friends, significant others, career etc. Bullies aren’t just damaging their victims youth but sadly hindering their adult lives.
Worthless, lonely, hopeless, helpless, empty, dreading every new day, crying yourself to sleep, wondering why, terrified to go to school, wishing you were dead! Asking God what you did? No where to turn, I’ve been there!
I want all those teens out there, who are going through this right now to know,
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
There is so many people out there that know what you are going through and have lived through! Please reach out!
When you’re a teen everything seems so much more finite, you believe that you are damned, your world is crumbling, this will never stop, life will never get better!
I’ll let you in on a secret LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER AFTER HIGHSCHOOL. Once I graduated I never saw any of those sad & pathetic bullies again. You go out in the world almost brand new, clean slate, you meet amazing people who are attracted to your inner beauty, and not crucified by some childish reputation that some pitiful teens created to make themselves feel better! And you can walk around with your head high because you have a great source of strength that many don’t because you have been to hell and back and survived.
Don’t ever allow people to make you hang your head in shame, your life is WORTH so much more. THEY ARE no better then you. Think of all the incredible things you can do and create! If YOU can make it through such a dreadful time, you can make it through anything life throws at you. The power that you hold within yourself is endless.
Don’t suffer in silence, reach out to anyone, parents, older sister/brother, Aunt, Uncle, Cousin, Teachers, Police, forums for bullying there are so many people out there who are wanting to help.
Change schools, move, home school, join groups, do whatever to distance yourself from all negativity and the bullies!
Life can be cruel. You have to try filter out the negativity use the pain & hurt & turn it into strength, use it as fuel to mold your most amazing life! Show them! You might be bruised but never broken! Get up! Dust yourself off and NEVER GIVE UP!
You may never know why you became a target. Acknowledge that it isn’t about you! Bullies need someone to fulfill their needs to feel powerful and feed their own insecurities, and you just happen to be there, wrong place, wrong time.
Know that you are beautiful, intelligent, strong, worthy of life and love. You have so much to offer the world. Never allow other people who hate themselves, using you as a punching bag to dim your light. All those who follow are sheep, too afraid to stand up for what is right, too afraid they too will become a target. Jealousy is horrible trait, and fuels most bullies. You emanate a essence about you that they wish they had, you are unique! The higher you soar the smaller you appear to others who can’t. There will always be people who want to see you fall and fail, they will try and break your spirit, rape your soul. NEVER allow them. Stand your ground. Dust yourself off and NEVER LOOK BACK.
Alis Volat Propriis